PASTOR COMFORT LUWEI WRITES AGAIN FOR YOU THIS EASTER..READ PLEASE

Pastor Comfort Luwei

STOP NAGGING, LIVE BETTER

It is by popular demand that I fish out this very interesting paper I delivered sometime ago at an international women event in Texas a few years back I hope it makes a difference in your lives this Easter Thank you.

  What is Nagging?

The English Dictionary says nagging is a verb, which means to scold continuously. Personally, I think it goes beyond that. People can naturally scold if they saw the need to get wrong things corrected. But this is not what nagging is all about. There are no perfect people or system anywhere and as result, there are bound to be wrongs. Notwithstanding, to think that there is justification to nag is only a plot to make one’s self the worst enemy to people around.

Synonymously, to nag is to be irksome, irritating, troublesome, harassing, and niggling. This simply tells you that the problem is not about the issue or the person you complain about as being a burden to you. It is about the nagging individual, being totally unbearable to put up with. Simply put that you are the one who is irritating, harassing, etc if you are the nagging type, and not the other way round!

So a nagging man or woman is the irksome, irritating, harassing type and so on. How pitiful it is to nag, not even being nagged at!

This seems more of a feminist character though men also nag. One of the greatest soccer players of our time in West Europe lost out of his country world cup squad slated for Japan/Korea 2002 not because he failed to impress the coach.

He kept finding fault, seeing nothing good about everyone and everything until the coach was resentful and sent him out of the camp.

It is really so easy to find out that the nagging woman, for instance, is often the most insubordinate employee in the workplace. With no sense of respect for her superiors, colleagues and subordinates at the office, it is a cheap thing for her to have her husband at home reduced to a loaf of bread with her mouth. She fails to see anything good as good. This is often a demonstration of conceit that is deep-seated in pride probably because some golden opportunities and sizable resources are under her control for the moment.

And others around her do not have them or do not really match up with her. This often tags along education, background, societal class and connection, income prospect amongst other things that could naturally give a man or woman an economic edge.

Take the words of Solomon in Proverb 21:9, 19 to heart which says that:

It is better to dwell in a corner of housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house. It is better to dwell in the wilderness than with a contentious and an angry woman. Women, please Watch It!

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A young lady once admitted that there is always the tendency of character derailment especially, in women when they start climbing the ladder of achievement whether, with or without men’s involvement. She reveals that there is always a subconscious act of getting increasingly discontented with status quo. And so, nagging takes the center stage.

Recent research in the world of science posits that the speech nerve is the control nerve for the human body.

So it implies that nagging and its contents control or influence personalities negatively as it engages the tongue to destroy values, virtues and eventually whatever good remains to be appreciated. Little wonder, the Scriptures speak strongly on the tongue as the control organ of destiny (James 3:1-12).

Anyone having this character deficiency, be it a man or woman, would only earn himself or herself a “stay clear” response from people. So it is leprosy! This has been responsible for many marital separations, divorces, job losses,, and failures in various aspects of life and ultimately, living in isolation. Proverbs 19:13 puts it this way that:

… The contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.

There is a story of a female minister of the Gospel who went about the ministry at the expense of her family and marriage. Make no mistake about it, my friend. The degree of integrity for ministry is the same for marriage and family life. God will hold you responsible in the same measure for both. Remember Adam (Genesis 3)  and the Priest Eli (1 Samuel 2 & 3).

ON GOD’S PART, THERE IS ZERO TOLERANCE FOR FAILURE IN MARRIAGE AND MINISTRY!

This woman neglected her husband in every sense and often referred to him, who does not know as much as she does about the things of God, as the devil on her way to serving God. The flames of hell around her husband were heated the more with her nagging until the poor man decided to find happiness elsewhere.

Then he left without any announcement to the woman but it was late to have things restored with that man by the time she realized her wrong. And to make matters worse, the ministry, because of which she lost out on marriage began falling apart. There is no way you can administer well in ministry without consistency in the administration of family life. Failure at home in most cases, result to failure in the ministry. One way by which the comeliness of a woman could be despised or sneered at without any consideration is when she nags. Often, people regard suffering as pleasure in comparison with having access to a world of goodies and a nagging woman on standby.

Proverbs 25:24 explains better:

It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.

May this not be your experience in Jesus’ name!

A recruitment outfit carried out a research on job loss, using survey tools for a few thousand people who lost their jobs. It was discovered that 80-90% of them lost their job, not to incompetence on the job but to poor attitudinal skills and a very large chunk of this category had their failures in professional callings rooted in failure in their marriages. And you may be surprised to know that nagging is a dominant trait.

Today, literal lepers may be hard to find but most people on the streets, workplaces, homes, gatherings and the society at large have one undesirable quality or the other that are both contagious and ripping off in effect on others within the spheres of their daily contacts. A common adage goes thus: “show me your friend and I will tell you who you are”. This tells how often we imbibe or inculcate ungodly attitudes from people around us. Proverbs 22:24-25 admonishes that we:

Make no friendship with an angry man: and with a furious man you shall not go: less you learn his ways, and get a snare to your soul.

Also 1 Corinthians 15:33 states that

…Evil communications corrupt good manners.

And Proverbs 13:20 also says:

He that walks with the wise shall be wise…

So you can tell for yourself the fate of whoever walks with the fool and more particularly the nagging man or woman. Birds of the same feathers flock together. So, it is very difficult to put up with a thief, promiscuous fellow or any ill-mannered person without such personality rubbing off on you. So watch out and be careful.

Pastor Comfort Luwei is founder Faithful Women Intercessory, Interdenominational Ministries