*How she picks and cares for abandoned children with serious congenital health issues
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| Laja Adedoyin |
Fred Iwenjora
When
THERESA LAJA ADEDOYIN left a lucrative artistic directing job with the
Commonwealth office in the United Kingdom to return to Nigeria, she never knew
that her life would be so turned around inexplicably like it has.
She
had planned to make films as well as other audio visual content to contribute
to the booming culture business which she is an expert at. But her plans
soon changed. No thanks to a freak accident at the National Theatre Iganmu
Lagos which pointed her to another path.
While
bedridden for months after the accident which threatened her with amputation,
she prayed fervently for healing with a promise to work for God if healed. God
answered her prayers and she decided to fulfill her pledge to Him by directing
her service to the care of children with varied congenital and sometimes
terminal health problems.
She
set up Hearts of Gold Children’s Hospice in Surulere, the heart of Lagos, threw
the home open in 2003 and have in the past 17 years continued to wade through
the challenges of running such a home in a country where more and more children
with such health issues are regularly
dumped or “thrown” away. A visit to the hospice and seeing her mingling and
playing with her children will leave any visitor in awe.
This
is the story of Theresa Laja Adedoyin, Nigeria’s Mother Theresa, a woman with a
big heart of Gold as told to FRED IWENJORA.
What inspired you to set up Hearts of Gold
Hospice?
A freak accident at the National Theatre Lagos
that left me bed ridden for months was the spark that fired my interest to set
up a home for children with terminal ailment. People I call society’s rejects
who are always left to die. I can say that the journey to starting Hearts of
Gold Children’s Hospice began on 19th March 2000. My left leg was broken into
three fractures. I was hospitalized and faced imminent amputation.
I prayed and prayed on
my sick bed asking God to spare me of further pain. I specifically made a
covenant with God that if He would save me and save my leg from amputation, I
would work for Him. When I got healed, I almost forgot the promise I made to
God. Yet He kept reminding me until I took the stand. So when I took the
decision, I chose the area of care for physically and mentally challenged children.
So I can say that Hearts of Gold Hospice is a fulfillment of my promise and vow
to God. I am still very grateful to God because He saved me and saved my leg.
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| With her children |
Working with people with disability must be a
daunting task as they seem helpless depending on others for everything?
You can say that
again. My relationship with people with mental disabilities started back in
March 1990. I first was privileged to have gained experience in the area of
special education with emphasis on children with challenging behavior
especially children with autism, Down syndrome, cerebral Palsy, Dyslexia and
other neurological conditions associated with mental challenge. I worked for the
Commonwealth as artiste in residence. We were about 48 of us from Commonwealth
countries. I later set up Obatala Disability Arts Vocational and Training
Centre. I also ran a centre for adult with learning disability in East London.
I also lectured at Newham County College East London. I continue to thank God
for the opportunity to walk, work, dine and wine with these special children.
Through them, I have learnt to be patient, humble and more giving.
What were the initial problems at the time you
answered this call of God?
When I answered the
call, the first question to solve is the issue of funds. Where was I to get the
funding to run this? That question was answered by a solid belief that God will
provide.
Next was the venue. I
did not have a place except my three bedrooms bungalow. But I quickly answered those questions by
heaping the whole load on God who I strongly believe sent me on the errand in
the first place. I started by converting my small bungalow on Adebola street,
Surulere into the hostel for the first few children. I commissioned experts in
woodwork to furnish the hostels to habitable level for our special children.
The third problem was
getting trained staff to help me in handling the special cases. Several nurses
available were not experienced in the special cases that we handle. The
available ones did not have the kind of friendly temperament to handle my
special children. Even now we still have that problem because in Nigeria today,
it is hard to find dedicated staffs who are devoted to this kind of service.
Work attitude is also very poor. However we seem to have solved the staff
matter which continues to recur.
More so, the welfare
materials we require on a weekly basis including food, provision, toiletries etc is still very scarce
just as the resources to procure them is never enough. The secret of our longevity
is the understanding and assurance that God sent me on the job so would see me
through. And He has seen us weather all the storm and still running many years
after some people had propagated that it was a fluke. In the past few years we
have found dedicated staff and their welfare is paramount because the work is
as tough.
What do you recall of the first inmates?
We started with two
children and continued to expand. Our appearance on the then popular Funmi
Iyanda show created the awareness that before we returned from the studio, many
children were waiting for us. We spread our message to the hospitals and health
centers across Lagos and children started being admitted. I am happy that
today, we are registered agency with the Lagos state Ministry of youths and Social
Development who facilitates the admittance of the children. They always refer
to Hearts of Gold whenever a new special child is found. At the first home at Adebola,
we grew to have 36 children. However at the home now, they have tripled.
You agree that funding remains the major
issue; How do you solve this particular problem?
Most funding is
personal funds. We still depend of well spirited Nigerians for support and they
have not failed us. Sometimes we have produced film and television content for
marketing because it has always been my forte which also helps in generating
funds.
Almost seventeen years and still running;
what’s the magic?
I feel fulfilled
without mincing words. It is only dedication that has seen us through the years
and nothing more. It is all to the glory of God and Nigerians who have
continued to support us. I know that if the children could talk, they will sing
to the praises of several people who have not forgotten us. I cannot name names
here because I may not ever name all who have done us well to make the children
enjoy the basics of life in good health. Several people have been there for us
since inception. But the children and I remain grateful to the Big Daddy of
Hearts of Gold, Babatunde Fashola SAN for building for us a befitting home and
for some of Nigeria’s top financial institutions for so much support. The story
of how Fashola found us a home is a story for another day. Former Governor
Ambode did not abandon us just as Governor Sanwolu has also not forgotten us. Also
Speaker of the Federal House of the Reps Rt. Hon. Femi Gbajabiamila and a host
of others some of whom remain anonymous who celebrate their birthdays with us
yearly or support us with food and provisions daily are always in our hearts. Please
this is not a roll call. I may run the risk of mentioning some and leaving out
some of our numerous benefactors.
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| Fashola and a child |
Why do we have to wait for another day to hear the story
of how Babatunde Fashola SAN built a befitting home for you and your children?
Please tell us now.
Well, If you must know. Babatunde Fasha
visited Hearts of Gold Children’s Hospice on one of his birthdays and was moved
to tears on that visit and in agreement with his wife Abimbola continued to
send emissaries to the home, discussing our needs with a resolve to continue to
support us as best as he could and has never looked back. On his next birthday,
he sent out an invitation to me and the children to a reception at a venue
somewhere on the famous Alhaji Masha street. It was there he shocked me with
the presentation of a new home built according to world class specification. I
have never been so shocked in my life like I was on that day that Fashola
presented the new home to us. I never knew he was secretly building an internationally
designed ultra modern facility to accommodate these children.
He is the Big Daddy at Hearts of Gold with
a resolve to be there for us at all times
and we will never stop being grateful
to him. The children may never be able to thank him due to their condition but
God knows they are grateful.
What about those who require palliative
surgery….
Those who require
surgery are given the best medical care with support from many corporate
entities. We have relationship with local and internationally renowned
hospitals in Nigeria and in many other countries including India, and UAE where
emergency surgical interventions are done and still being done for some of the
children.
You may have learnt lessons about the
prevalence of congenital ailments in Nigeria as compared with the EU?
Founding and running
Hearts of Gold children Hospice has exposed me to much prevalence of congenital
ailments across western Nigeria. Parents tend to run away from such so called
problems that they abandon the children or throw them away kind of. We take
over the nursing of such children by managing their lives.
Any plans for tomorrow? I trust you must want
this dream to outlive you? What do you envisage for the future?
I have already taken
care of that. As soon as Barrister Fashola donated this building, I told him of
my wish to let it outlive me. I decided that it is only the Catholic Church
that can selflessly run it in perpetuity so we have made such arrangements to
complete the paper works on the decision to bequeath the Home to the Diocese of
Lagos.
